New Balance Series Starting
The next few blog posts will be a series on balance. Life is a series of choices, and we all must learn how to balance. Do I eat out tonight or cook dinner at home? Do I go to the gym or watch reruns on the couch with a big bowl of candy? Do I knock out another TRX class or do yoga? Do I pay off the mortgage, invest the money or buy a new car?
The series will consist of balancing poses in yoga complemented by a consideration of balance in your workout routines, balance within your body and balance of the everyday stresses of life. If you have anything specific that you would like discussed, email me and I will try to include it.
Let’s jump right in there! I will be the first to admit that I need help at times with balance in my everyday life. If you’ve been in my home, sadly, you know the room in the featured picture was not staged. Some days I am functioning on an hour by hour basis – scratch that, minute by minute. Between my faith, my three small children, my family and friends, the house and my new yoga opportunities, I have very little, if any, energy left for Erin. There have been occasions in the past where I lost who I was. I was stuck in survival mode. Anyone who is a caregiver has been in survival mode. You can read my story in the previous post Why Yoga.
Let’s Get Specific
What we are really talking about is prioritization, time management and, generally speaking, just trying to make it all happen. There is never enough time or energy to get everything done in one day. Here are a few things that have helped me.
Full disclosure: I get no direct benefit from any people or products that I mention in these posts. They have been useful to me, and I think they may be useful to you. If nothing else, they’ll give you some ideas for your journey.
What…is…that? It is important to track where you spend your time and how much time you spend on each task. This will help you prioritize. If you allow others to usurp your time, they will. Here is the key, YOU! That is right. It is a choice. If it is important to you, you will make the time. The reason it is a cliche is because it’s true. One goal should be to make time for you. You will be stronger and happier for it. I think this article provides some perspective on how busy we really are. These ladies run companies and still intentionally make time for the important things.
To help me with managing my time, I have an Erin Condren LifePlanner. You can buy a calendar at the dollar store or make one on your computer. EVERY event for ANYONE in my household goes into that one book. As caregivers we not only manage ourselves but others as well. It is important to stay organized and keep everyone in the household on the same wavelength. Plus, with a calendar, when your significant other wants to argue with you about when something was scheduled, you can pull out the official record, point to the entry and smile on the inside as you realize you just decisively won an argument (just remember – no judging, even when it’s that tempting).
My husband and I plan “business/family meetings” on a regular basis to ensure we share the same goals. These can be short (on the order of a few sentences) or longer (up to an hour). We also try to help each other meet personal goals. One of my goals is to update my website and keep it fresh. Without nagging, my husband is consistent in asking if I made my latest self-imposed deadline with the website. That support system is necessary. It holds me accountable and also provides encouragement when I fall short.
It is also important to have an individual or group with which you can celebrate the victories in life, no matter how big or small. Here are a few of my support groups: Snellville Church of Christ and my fellow Christians, friends and family (including my employers and colleagues). I am blessed to work with peaceful, happy people. The instructors at The Wellness Studio are truly a positive influence on my life. Part of yoga is letting go of judgement and competition. In that spirit, the ladies there are my cheerleaders rather than my competitors, and that makes a world of difference in the workplace.
Build your life around the important things. And make no mistake, you are important! Start small, but aim big. It doesn’t happen overnight, but I know you can get there. Life can be an amazing journey. Make yours a good one.
Please tell me how you put balance in your everyday life… and please tell me I’m not the only one with a room that children destroy!